I’m am fascinated with the female orgasm. I never get tired of hearing or reading or learning about them. The who, what, when, where, why and how’s are endless. (well, not so much the ‘why’s) With men it’s so much simpler…our best orgasm was our most recent orgasm.

We always talk about her orgasm while winding down after sex. I was surprised to learn that not everybody does that. My quest for knowledge and my desire to replicate what I’ve learned has not always been appreciated. Early in our relationship, I think she felt like I was judging her if she wasn’t able to come the way I was trying to get her to come. Now she knows that I’m just curious about finding new and exciting ways to give her pleasure and I think she appreciates the effort. For instance one night this past week she was able to have a very rare multiple orgasm. I was riding her and she was playing with her clit when she started to come. It seemed to last for a long time and when I started to come…well she made noises I’ve never heard her make before. She’ll quite often have two or sometimes three orgasms in one session, but it’s rare for her to have a bunch all linked together. I must admit it was a huge thrill to be a part of that.

One thing that was very difficult to come to terms with is ♀ needs to be playing with her clit in order to come. In the past five years I’ve maybe given her six unassisted orgasms and even though she told me that was six more then anyone else had given her it was hard not to think I was doing something wrong. It turns out she’d never had an orgasm unassisted or not with any partner before me. She liked sex well enough, but all her big O’s came during solitary masturbation sessions. And no, I don’t think she told me that just to boost my delicate male ego. She tells me when she hasn’t come so I doubt she’d make up a story like that.

Speaking of big O’s, we’ve taken a big step in exploring our D/s relationship. She’s started to realize that being submissive is different then being subservient and being dominate is different then being domineering. She’s becoming much more confident and THAT is sexy. For quite awhile now she has been deciding the when, where and how of sex, but the other night she took that further. I’d finished braiding her hair and was busy filing and massaging her feet when she informed me that from now on all my orgasms will be subject to her approval. I need to ask her permission to masturbate and IF she consents there will be conditions attached; chores to be completed first, where, when and how (including anal play) I can come and what I’ll need to do about clean-up (come on her pillow or a specific item of clothing or rub it on to a specific body part or lick it up….). Cheating will not be tolerated.

She was very firm. Fuck it made me excited.

Cheers,

sss