I am curvy ( NOT skinny), confident and  fun. I am loyal, honest and passionate (loud).  I love lingerie, sex and most of all, my husband.

 

My husband is a sissy. He shares my love for lingerie.  His legs and pits are always shaved and his toe-nails painted. He paints my nails, brushes and braids my hair, shaves my pubes, helps me pick out my clothes and does much of the house-work. He is MY bitch, not yours (unless I tell him to be). He is not weak or stupid, but is submissive to ME in and out of the bedroom.

 

I think the female form is beautiful (so much more interesting than the male form) and I enjoy the company of women, but I had never been attracted to them in a sexual way. I tried a couple of times (partly out of curiosity and partly to amuse my hubby), but it didn’t really do anything for me. Recently, however, we played with a woman and I liked it. To be honest all we really did was make out while the hubby played with our naughty bits, but it was hot and I enjoyed myself and I’ve been thinking I might like to explore that some more.

 

So for now at least, I’m looking for one specific woman (a fwb rather than a bff). She’ll need to be patient and understanding because I truly have no idea where this will lead. I might only want to be boobie-sexual or I might discover that I really like (certain) women. You’ll need to be OK with where it does or doesn’t go because I’m not making any promises…I’m just curious.

 

 

We have dabbled with some BDSM stuff. I’m always dominate with my sissy, but have recently discovered that with the right men I can enjoy being submissive. So I identify as a switch. I think that would probably apply with women as well, but can’t say for sure until I’m in that situation.

 

Where does my sissy fit into this? ‘His dick is mine’ is one of our hard rules. He’s not even allowed to masturbate without my permission and he’s not allowed to ask. So if you wanted to do something sexual with him you would need to ask me first. Every time. Our other hard rule is ‘no secrets’. So depending on how you & I felt he might be invited to participate in our play or only be allowed to watch or maybe not be there at all. Regardless, he’ll always know who I’m playing with and hear all the details.

 

If you’re curious about what we look like, click here.  At the bottom of that page just click on the ‘newer posts’  link and you’ll find dozens of  Half-Nekkid Thursday (hnt) pictures of both of us.

 

 We’re looking forward to hearing from you!

 

♀ aka Okusan Bitch  on Fetlife

I think ♀ was caught off guard by the sheer volume of responses our ‘Men Wanted’ ad on Plenty of Fish  had. The part that surprised me was the number of men who obviously hadn’t read (or understood?) what the ad actually said. We had our fair share of the comical/icky/scary, but there were quite a few enticing responses as well.  We said ‘no thanks’ to any men who said they were married and their wives didn’t know they were playing. We don’t need the drama. ‘Non-smoker’ is a strong preference, but not necessarily a hard rule. Then if their response was interesting and their profile looked promising and if ♀ thought they looked attractive, she sent them the link to our blog. She’d suggest they look around to get a better idea of who we are and pointed out the HNT posts.  If they wrote back and sounded even more eager, she sent them a picture of our faces and asked some more questions about them and what they might be into.

 

Ok, when we joined the Lounge we decided we would only go to two activities per month. Partly because of finances, but mostly we didn’t want ‘play’ to take over our life. We don’t count Deviant Dining as an activity, but classes and Exploratorium and play-events, we try for two things a month.  At the time the NYE party was counted as a December thing, but it kinda felt like a January thing as well. Amy had pretty much convinced ♀ to go to her first Dirty Girls party (Jan8 ) and we have a free ticket to Sultry (Jan 29).

 

We didn’t place that ad because we wanted to spend less time at the Lounge. We still think Jennifer is super-duper awesome, and the people are great and the vibe is still sexy. It’s just that who we are able to play with there is very random. It’s always fun…it’s just that we thought we should look for additional situations that are more specific to our needs.

 

Anyway, we’ve both been fighting colds and the day before Dirty Girls ♀ said she didn’t want to go to her first all-girl party hacking and sneezing. So we decided we would go to the Naughty Party (Jan 15) instead and we’re still going to Sultry at the end of the month. Oh yeah, Lord & Lady Batsu have invited us down on Jan 22.  As you can see our social calendar was already pretty full even before that ad went out.

 

But out it went and the responses started to pour in and we got caught up in the excitement and attention. Even though we both had colds and ♀ wasn’t feeling good enough to go to Dirty Girls, we agreed to a meet-and-greet. We were both on the fence about whether or not we would play, but ♀ did get dressed sexy and packed a Ho-To-Go bag.

 

We met W at the pub underneath the hotel he was staying at. He travels a lot for work and is on the coast a few times a year. He’s younger then ♀. He was easy to talk to. Not just about sexy stuff, but life/love/the universe. We had a couple of drinks and everyone seemed very comfortable. He made it clear that he was interested, but we never felt pressured. I must admit, I liked the feeling I had taking my wife up to the hotel room of a man we’d met in the bar only 90 minutes before. It was a nice hotel and his room had a spectacular view of the river and city lights and the Alex Fraser bridge.

 

It really didn’t take long for everyone to get naked and sex did occur. If fact, hot-sweaty sex continued on until about 2:30am. W, was at one time or another, in all of ♀ orifices and several times in my own mouth. Yes, I have now sucked cock and how was that you ask.  W & ♀ both said I did very well, but considering I’ve taken Jennifer’s cock-sucking class and reviewed Carol Queen’s DVD on the same subject…it’ll take some practice. But did I enjoy it? Well, it felt like a very submissive thing to be told to do and things that reinforce that ‘sissy’ head-space are almost always good for me. They were making out the few times I did it and I liked that I was able to add to their excitement (and ♀ amusement), but I can’t imagine ever lusting for another mans cock.

 

So I do have some final thoughts about W from the perspective of a week later. He is a man who earns his living adapting quickly to a variety of situations. He was very smooth, but not slimy like some get. He was pleasant and we enjoyed the few hours we spent with him, but I don’t think we saw who he really was.  I used the past tense, because even though we all seemed very pleased with how things went, I wouldn’t be surprised if we never heard from him again. I mean that’s fine, we’re not looking for new best friends. If he does contact ♀ when he’s in town again, we’d probably play with him again and if he never does, well we had a very enjoyable night.

 

We met another man the following night. It was Sunday and we were tired and still fighting our colds and ♀ had to work early so no Ho-To-Go bag was packed. G was older than me and much rougher around the edges than W, but still pleasant enough. We talked for about an hour and we both felt comfortable with him. ♀ didn’t really get a ‘wow, I can’t wait to have him’ kind of moment, but we decided that probably had more to do with colds and fatigue than it did with anything about him. We decided that we would play once to see it there was any chemistry and we made a mid-week date. He was to come over after ♀ got home from work and leave when I left for work (that would give us 5 hours). We ended up having to cancel. We rescheduled, but he emailed a few days later to say he was going back to his wife and was no longer interested in play-dates.

 

We had another meet-and-greet this past weekend. We did have a Ho-To-Go bag packed, but that was because we were going to a Naughty Play Party at the Lounge right after. We both had a good feeling about S. He seemed very honest about why he was interested, he was very upfront about what (and who) he’d be into and we never got the impression he was telling us what he thought we wanted to hear. What I mean is he thinks cuckolding is very hot, but isn’t interested in much (if any) actual contact with me. He knows we would be interested in that and he could have fudged it  just to get laid…even if it was only once, but he knew himself and was (I think) truthful with us. Anyway, ♀ is attracted to him and sent him a note saying as much and he still sounds game and now it’s just a matter of arranging schedules.

 

So that’s three meet-and-greets and one play-date so far. According to her little black book, there are five more men we might want to meet. I just checked her POF page and three more have sent messages since she went to bed last night. As ♀ says, ‘so many men, so little time’.

 

 

 

Cheers,

♀ & sss

This is the picture that’s been on our desktop for the past week…

 

 

Then a couple of days ago one of my favourite Tumblr-bloggers, Glitter Muff, featured the same picture on her site. I’m a huge fan of erotic flash-fiction and her skillage in the genre is amazing.

 

Considering that cuckolding has been very much on our minds lately, it’s not surprising that I saw something different than Muffy did. When I looked at this picture I saw a wedding night.

 

The woman is an ethical slut. She enjoys the company of a great many people. She’s not at all embarrassed by her lifestyle choice and is upfront about it with all those she plays with. The man watching was one of her lovers. He became smitten and tried to woo her. She thought he was sweet and enjoyed the time she spent with him, but had no interest in being wooed. He lavished gifts on her and pleaded with her to marry him.  He’s intelligent, funny, wealthy and a wonderful lover, but she knows herself and monogamy is simply not an option. He is not deterred.

 

Finally, she tells him what it would take to marry him. She gets to continue to fuck who she wants, when she wants and where she wants…including in their bed. He, on the other hand, will only be allowed to have sex with her. She gets to decide who the best man will be and she gets to fuck him on their wedding night while the groom watches.

 

He agrees to all her conditions. He doesn’t actually meet his best-man until the wedding rehearsal. Explaining to his mother why this man, who no one seems to know, is her sons best man is awkward. 

 

Speaking of cuckold weddings…

 

 

Cheers,

♀ & sss

I am curvy, confident and like to have fun. I am loyal, honest and passionate. I love lingerie, sex and most of all, my husband.

 

My husband is a sissy. He shares my love for lingerie.  His legs and pits are always shaved and his toe-nails are painted. He paints my nails, brushes and braids my hair, shaves my pubes, helps me pick out my clothes and does much of the house-work. He is MY bitch, not yours. He is not weak or stupid,  but is submissive to ME…in and out of the bedroom. I am always dominate with him, but have been exploring my submissive side lately. I have just recently been identifying as a ‘switch’.

 

Cuckolding is something that we both really want to explore. So in the simplest terms we are looking for men to have sex with me, but like most things in life it’s never that simple. We need to see pictures of YOU, not just your penis. Your profile needs to tell us something about who you are and what you might be into. You need to be able to string together enough sentences to catch and hold my attention. I will decide who we play with, but we will BOTH need to feel comfortable, so be respectful!  We are definitely not looking for an exclusive sort of arrangement, but finding a person who we have enough of a connection to want to play with again (and again) would be a very good thing.

 

 

 

I can have sex with whomever I choose and in theory my sissy doesn’t need to be present, but he will always know who I’m with and it should be assumed that he will be part of any encounter. Even if  it’s just as a spectator. You can identify as a Dom or sub or switch or none of the above…we have LOTS of play ideas to fit into lots of different scenarios. 

 

This isn’t a deal breaker, but it would be great if you’re open to some physical contact with my sissy. Some examples of this would be my sissy fluffing you in preparation to fuck me, putting the condom on you (we always play safe), guiding you in, licking my juices off your balls,  double-penetration or maybe even bending him over are all things we might like to take beyond pillow-talk.

 

 

If you’re curious about what we look like, click here.  At the bottom of that page just click on the ‘newer posts’  link and you’ll find dozens of  Half-Nekkid Thursday (hnt) pictures of both of us.

 

 We’re looking forward to hearing from you!

 

♀ aka Okusan Bitch  on Fetlife

 2011 is going to be a year of major changes in our life and hopefully First Night at the Lounge will be a harbinger of an amazing year to come and not the one bright spot in an otherwise disappointing year.

 

We bought a shiny black pleather corset for ♀ to wear to the party and ♀ offered to let me wear one of her lacy white negligees (one of the few pieces of her lingerie that doesn’t require boobs to look nice). We also bought two doses of Forta for Women. Jennifer had mentioned it so we thought we’d give it a try. We weren’t expecting a new corset and a supplement to change her into a raging nympho, but we hoped it might help her tap into the sexual energy of the Lounge.

 

On Friday afternoon ♀ had a long soak in the tub. I shaved her legs, washed and conditioned her hair while we talked about how we hoped the night would unfold.  I thought she should take the Forta as we were leaving for the Lounge and in theory it would start working about the time we arrived. She thought she should take it much earlier. Her theory was that with so many people at the party it was highly unlikely that I’d be able to get wood even if we didn’t have sex before we left. So if the supplement helped her get aroused while we were still at home, we could make love and that would help her feel connected to me at the party.

 

She took the Forta and it had absolutely no affect, but we made love after I’d shaved her pubes and she was able to have a small orgasm. I did her hair, helped her into her corset and attached stockings to garters. She was going to wear shiny black pumps, but decided with so many people attending she might be spending a lot of time on her feet and the pumps are quite high so she wore her black boots. She looked gorgeous and I completely forgot to take pictures (sorry).

 

I’ve been trying for three days to capture that party with words and I just can’t do it justice. NYE parties, like Halloween are often expensive, drunken disappointments so we rarely attend such things. I think this was the best NYE party I have been to ever. Seriously, Jennifer and Jason put on a hell-of-a-show.  The food and music and energy were all spectacular. Want to hear something funny? Jennifer had put together a slide show (OK it’s probably not called that anymore, but you know what I mean) Anyway, there were a couple of hundred pictures of Jennifer and Jason and various Lounge members being their sexy-selves. Included in the set were all of ♀ pin-up photo’s and I had this WOW moment. We really are part of this amazing community. I just really felt it that night.

 

I couldn’t possibly tell you all that went on, but there are a few things that just need to be mentioned. There was a big burly man giving a flogger demonstration. He had a lazy-susan filled with various floggers/whackers/thumpers…Anyway, I remember the first time I saw Lord Batsu do caning and I was struck (hoho) with how rhythmic it was. The guy at the party took that to a whole new level. I saw for the first time, the artistry of flogging. The sight and sound of it was just mesmerizing.

 

Speaking of being mesmerized, another man gave a fire-play demonstration and it had a huge affect on ♀. I thought it looked cool (sorry, hot), but ♀ was absolutely spellbound. She really wants to try that.

 

 

The other super-duper completely unexpected and totally fanfuckingtastic thing that happened was we had our very first 3some. You will never guess who it was with. Seriously, try and guess and then click here. I bet you didn’t see that coming, did you?

 

It was after 3am when we got home and toasted in the new year. We fucked once more before we went to sleep and *pillow-talk* Amy fisted ♀ into a HUGE Big O while I was tied to a chair watching.

 

So like I said at the beginning of this post, I hope NYE is a sign of great things to come in the following year….for us and for all of you as well.

 

Cheers,

♀ & sss